The Purpose Pinch is like an emotional crossroads between caring and coping. It’s the “I can’t keep doing this, but I can’t stop either” moment.
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In the charity world, we talk a lot about burnout - the exhaustion, the overwhelm, the emotional depletion that comes from caring deeply in a system that is chronically under-resourced. Since hosting my podcast, What’s the Chari-tea? I have had the pleasure of speaking to hundreds of sector professionals, trustees, and volunteers about their love for the sector as well as the challenges of their work. An observation I have made through these conversations, and my own lived experience, is that long before burnout hits something else happens first.

I remember my own experience of burnout taking me by complete surprise. I was sitting in a meeting, nodding and saying yes when my whole body was saying no. At the time, I thought burnout was a sudden snap that came like a slap to the face. But I’ve learned that burnout doesn’t arrive out of nowhere. It has a beginning. A moment, where there is a collision between your sense of purpose and your actual capacity. This is what I call The Purpose Pinch.

The Purpose Pinch is like an emotional crossroads between caring and coping. It’s the “I can’t keep doing this, but I can’t stop either” moment.

I see the Purpose Pinch present within all purpose-led work. In some sectors, pressure comes from deadlines, targets or commercial expectations. In the charity sector, pressure comes from the people, the stories, the demand, the need. From the belief that if you don’t step in, someone might fall through the cracks. Our purpose becomes the very thing that can exacerbate the pressure.

That’s the pinch. It shows up in the everyday moments: staying late because “they need me”, taking on one more case, answering emails at night because “it matters”, feeling guilty for taking annual leave, carrying stories home that you can’t put down. Many of the organisations I have previously worked in in the private sector, invested heavily in tackling staff disengagement. In the charity sector, we often face the opposite problem. Our people take on overloaded schedules and responsibility that isn’t always theirs to carry. If anything they are over-engaged.

Where managers come in

For leaders and managers, it is essential to acknowledge the Purpose Pinch. Almost all of the teams that I’ve supported over the years have had their purpose outpace their capacity. And when this is left unaddressed, it becomes the pathway to burnout, turnover and the loss of your best people.

When your team is standing at the crossroads between caring and coping, they need leaders who can competently recognise the warning signs, name what’s happening and create space for honest conversations.

Why naming it matters

The Purpose Pinch validates the emotional truth of purpose-led work without romanticising the struggle. It gives the sector a shared language for something we’ve felt for years but never articulated. And it opens the door to healthier conversations about boundaries, emotional load and the people behind the mission.

If we want our organisations to thrive, we need to build cultures where purpose fuels people rather than drains them. Naming the Purpose Pinch is the first step. Changing the systems around it is the work ahead.

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Louise Dawtry is the founder of What’s the Chari-tea? a community and podcast that exists to help make the third sector a better place to work. The latest episode features guest, Luke Barrow, CEO of men’s mental health and suicide prevention charity, Two Pints Deep. You can connect with Louise on LinkedIn and Instagram @whatsthecharitea and learn more about her talks and events at www.whatsthecharitea.com

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